Posts Tagged ‘motivation’

Looking for Joy

September 15, 2009

Joy. It’s a tiny word but a great feeling. A feeling that we should have control over.

I see so many people who have no dominion over their feeling states. They have conceded to a system of living based on what is happening in their lives rather than being in control. If things are going well, they feel well, if things are not going well, they do not feel well.

That is a very unhealthy roller coaster method of living.

I know from my own life that we have the power to control our own state of being. There is a way to find joy regardless of the cards being dealt to us and the circumstances we find ourselves in.

You just have to look for it. Are you looking hard enough?

Professional Independence

September 8, 2009

Although the rate of unemployment continues to rise, Americans with “job security” are still not happy at work.

A recent survey by the Harris Group of North America finds that 76% of gainfully employed Americans do not see opportunities to get ahead and grow, furthermore, 78% say that their employer often fails to retain talent. These are real indicators of an unhappy workforce.

This can be attributed to a general unhappiness with our professional choices and a “grass is greener” perception of the working life. We often assume that people that work in professions other than ours live the good life. But the reality is that other fields of employment are also overgrown with the weeds of dissatisfaction.

I want to empower people to branch out and create their own work environments – to get started with self-employment and become entrepreneurs. I have been self-employed for the past 17 years and now is the best time to get out there and start a business.

It is time to get out from underneath other people’s dreams and aspirations. Stop the treadmill of using your talents to move forward the economic well being of someone else’s business or corporation.

That’s what I have been doing for the past 17 years and I’ve never looked back.

Happy Tuesday!

Aim For The Sky

September 1, 2009

The summer has been amazing – trips to Hawaii, Orlando and the good old New jersey Shore. All three combined business and pleasure. And as a result of these trips, I have developed a more powerful focus on the contributions I intend to make to society. I have become a founding member of a personal transformation and educational company: The Polaris Media Group.

This organization will be at the forefront of positive change in our society.

I am excited because the media so often reduces the human experience to its negative aspects and being able to provide a media experience that helps people find their voice in a positive manner has immensely invigorated me.

I have been an optimist for a long time. I have always had a belief that anything is possible if we perceive life through a positive lens. My own books and soon to be released audio programs will continue to spread that message.

I now am a member of the Polaris Media Group and the platform has exploded – our line of personal development tools is perfectly in-sync with the message that I have been putting out for years.

I am ready to launch with new power and enthusiasm.

It is imperative at this time in the history of the world to not settle for mediocrity. It is time to step out with a voice that says I AM POWERFUL AND I PLAN TO MAKE A POSITIVE CONTRIBUTION TO MY FELLOW HUMAN BEINGS.

However, that starts with getting your own house in order. We must first quiet the inner voice that limits us. Once that happens, the sky truly becomes the only limit.

Look out world, The Miracles of Optimism are ready to be unleashed in a huge way.

Aim for the sky!

Believe in Miracles

March 31, 2009

Miracles. Believing in them is the best path to optimism. I always tell people that miracles come in big and small packages and their perceived size is unimportant. The key is to have the self-awareness to recognize everyday miracles instead of dismissing them as coincidences.

There is no such thing as a coincidence.

The next step is to be in the state of gratitude for all these miracles: big and small. The self-awareness will keep us in touch with our thoughts. With our feelings and emotions. When these thoughts, feelings and emotions are focused on the possibilities of good, they open a portal for a flood of miracles to make their way into our lives.

When you start to to recognize the miracles, then you begin to live each and every day with unbridled energy in a feeling state called, you guessed it, optimism.

My Motivation

February 17, 2009

This evening I’ll be talking to self-help professionals on The Miracle Show, in order to give you guys a glimpse into what drives them, what distinguishes them from their peers and what they bring to the table. In honor of tonight’s show, here’s a glimpse into what drives me to do this work.

I met this young woman after I nearly died on the floor of the Linc Stadium. The school district gave me a job while I got back up on my feet.

I’ve had such an amazing and blessed life.Thanks for reading.

“I am a former student of Kevin Touhey. My journey began about six years ago when I was a Junior in High School. Kevin worked in my High School part time at that time. I pretty much went there “part time” as well, being that I frequently cut class, left early or just left for the day. I had been around the same peers for several years and I never really had a problem getting along with others…except one “clique” of boys. Quite honestly, I was fed up with their immature ways of poking fun and laughing when they put others down. However, if this clique did not exist…neither would this e-mail because this is how I met “Mr. Touhey.”

It was the end of my Junior Year and I had just been “dumped” by “Jimmy.” For about a week, every time I would sit in class with him or his friends, they would try really hard to aggravate me. A few days later…I walked in to the main office DRENCHED in red Gatorade! My administrator called in Mr. Touhey to find this Jimmy kid in class, and bring him to the office.

Long story short, I met Touhey that day and every day for the next 6 weeks as he was pretty much my bodyguard as he says. He was told by my administrator that he would walk me to and from every, single class! I started talking to Touhey in the halls on our short walks. After about 6 weeks I felt like I had a friend.

My senior year, Touhey worked as a gym teacher and he was my gym teacher. I would talk to him about his book (he was in the process of writing the Miracle of Optimism), he would talk about his family that he loves so very much! I remember how excited he was when they had their second baby girl.

At the end of my senior year, I graduated High School and went to college. I did not see Touhey for about five years….Until, Halloween Parade at the end of October 2008. I had no clue he lived close by five years later. So, when I was walking around that evening I was SHOCKED because I thought I saw Mr. Touhey. I literally pulled my husband’s arm so hard it startled him and he had no idea what I was so on about. “MR. TOUHEY…TOUHEY” I yelled and I felt like everyone was staring at me. So, I walk up and give him a hug and introduce my husband. “Touhey guess what?! He is a cop” I said, “Can you believe that of all people I married a cop?” Kevin’s response is so classic: “Great! Now you have a bodyguard to walk you around 24-7!”

It is so ironic how people come in and out of your life. I started talking about my career as I am working with an insurance company now and I asked about his. I knew for years that he could and should make it as a writer, and he did which made me ecstatic! When Kevin said he was still doing motivational speaking I knew that I had to ask him to speak at one of my company’s events.

So, back to my boss I went and they agreed to have him as the motivational speaker at our State Kick Off event in early January 2009. It was the best hour of the entire day as we all sat and listened. Not one person got up, left the room, or took their eyes off of Touhey. We all cried at one point or another because what he was saying was so inspirational, moving and life-changing.

Touhey had about three standing ovations! We all brought home a signed copy of the best book I have ever read in my entire life…The Miracle of Optimism By: Kevin Touhey; an Amazon top seller written and published by a miracle…Mr. Touhey…my bodyguard!”

Positive Energy

February 12, 2009

I recently spoke to the NJDMA ( New Jersey Dietary Managers Association) and was delighted to see the eagerness of the group to learn new ways to inspire and motivate their staff. They were very in tune with the idea that any change they want to see take place, starts with themselves. They firmly understood that accepting their responsibility as leaders to be vibrant and joyful would rub off on the staff.

There will always be bumps in the road, but it is the way we handle them that sets the tone and example for those that look to us as leaders. Bringing positive energy along in every facet of our lives, not just the good times, is an attitude which has the power to not only improve our lives, but also the lives of the people around us.

Positive energy is not about always smiling or being happy, it is about seeing the good in every situation we face. No matter how bleak it may be. At times, such an attitude can be very hard to maintain, but who said life was easy?

FYI: My most sincere apologies for the postponed self-help panel. I will make sure to inform you as soon as a new date and time are established.

Self-Help Panel – Why & How We Do It

February 3, 2009

Catch me Wednesday evening on The Miracle Show where I will premiere my self-help round-table series: Why & How We Do It. I decided to organize this panel because as I was writing my book, The Miracle of Optimism, I came across numerous other individuals, whom like myself, are dedicating their lives to making other people’s lives better. They are dedicating their time to teaching us how to handle the lemons life throws at us. They genuinely want us to embrace and take full advantage of the opportunities life presents us with.

I want to discuss what drives them. I want to understand how their journey on this path started and most importantly, what differentiates them from the others in this field. Because, as I am sure you have realized, there is a lot of clutter. This show will help these professionals break through it and let you, the audience, understand what they can do for you. It will help you understand what they bring to the self-help table.

The first episode will feature Laurie Santos of Extreme Dream Training, Thomas Rich of Wellness-Inspired Self Help and The Logistician Reggie Greene.

I hope you’ll tune in tomorrow, Wednesday February 4th at 7:30 EST. The call in number is (347) 945-7713, I’d love to hear your questions and comments.

“See” you tomorrow!