Posts Tagged ‘happiness’

Looking for Joy

September 15, 2009

Joy. It’s a tiny word but a great feeling. A feeling that we should have control over.

I see so many people who have no dominion over their feeling states. They have conceded to a system of living based on what is happening in their lives rather than being in control. If things are going well, they feel well, if things are not going well, they do not feel well.

That is a very unhealthy roller coaster method of living.

I know from my own life that we have the power to control our own state of being. There is a way to find joy regardless of the cards being dealt to us and the circumstances we find ourselves in.

You just have to look for it. Are you looking hard enough?

The Life Of Your Dreams

July 15, 2009

There are more solutions than there are problems.

That’s true for any situation and it is an important fact to remember if you want to live a life with vibrancy.

If you are able to trust that concept, it becomes easy not to drain your energy each and every time a bump in the road occurs. It is important not to tap into frustration, anxiety, anger and other negative feeling states when attempting to seek a resolution to a challenge. Doing so results in you conceding your feeling state to a given situation or circumstance: the outcome of that is a roller-coaster existence that relies on events outside of yourself to feel joy and happiness.

Not fun.

If things are going well, you feel good, if things are not going well, you feel bad. Since a full life includes both things we deem good and things we deem bad, it behooves you to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that there are more solutions than problems so that you are fully supported by the universe.

All you need to do is take the right actions to solve the challenge without depleting your energy. Being optimistic is a byproduct of just knowing that all is well in this great big wonderful world we live in.

I hope you’re having a great week!

Now More Than Ever – Postponed Bliss

June 15, 2009

This is a tale of two people who took different paths in their lives. One worked his entire life in a career he did not like. In fact during the past 20 years, he stated numerous times that he was working towards retirement. He really wanted to be a teacher but being a lawyer provided him more financial stability. He put up with a daily grind that he had distain for because he was able to sock money away in his 401(k) and just count the hours, days, weeks and years until he could cash in the money earned with blood, sweat and tears.

He would then start to really live his life.

Then the 401(k) went down the tubes with the economic meltdown.

On the other end of the spectrum, I have another friend who has never felt like he worked a day in his life. Every time the field he was passionate about became boring or seemed like a grind he changed careers. He’s an entrepreneur and changed the nature of his small business each time he felt it was time for a new challenge.

He refused to wait until the future to “live his life”, so he lived each day to the fullest. He has always made a decent living and his enterprise still has saying power. He accomplished that without ever sacrificing a day in the present on the altar of the future.

I see so many people bitter over what they have lost. I hear so many of them lamenting the fact that they toiled for years and earned the right to retire. They sacrificed their present and worked toward the benefits of life after work. Unfortunately, things didn’t fall into place as hoped.

Not fair.

Nevertheless, this provides a profound message for those who want to heed it. Do not postpone your bliss because there is no guarantee beyond the present moment.

DO NOT BECOME A LAWYER IF TEACHING IS WHAT YOUR HEART SCREAMS FOR.

Both of these people have about the same amount of money now. Both are in their late to early 50’s and 60’s. One is living a life where the “best laid plans” failed him while the other lives each day like it is his last.

Happy Monday and seize the day my friends!

Pivot Away From Negativity

January 6, 2009

With every new year, comes a new rhyme and here’s mine: 2009, the time is right to feel fine.

Are you smiling yet?

I coached college basketball for many years and one of the most important fundamental skills I would repeatedly teach is the ability to pivot. When a player runs into a situation in which their desired path is blocked, they must pivot away from the defender(s) and put themselves in a position to maneuver freely again.

The same is true for feeling states.

If you find yourself in a negative frame of mind, it would behoove you to learn how to pivot into something more positive. It takes practice. In my speeches, I always tell the audience to learn to trap all negative feelings right then right now, and pivot away from them.

The next step is to immediately replace those feelings with something more positive, something powerful. Notice the change and remember how good it feels to have positive thoughts. Stop waiting for something to happen to change your mood; develop the ability to pivot by practicing with each negative feeling state.

Practice makes perfect.

Imagination is Everything

December 9, 2008

The most limiting question you can ask yourself is “how is this going to happen?” If I had asked myself how I was going to write a book, have a family, live in this house and raise my children I would have been stopped in my tracks.

Albert Einstein said, “Imagination is everything, it is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”I would add, be sure you are in a positive state of mind while imagining/visualizing the life of your dreams.

These aren’t pipe dreams. They are real dreams.

Do not limit yourself in any way. You have the power to be and do as you desire. “What this power is, I cannot say. All I know is that it exists” said Alexander Graham Bell.

So begin to see your future right now and feel it.

My life is a living testimony that “whatever the mind can conceive it can achieve.” Nothing just happens to us, there are no coincidences and everything that has ever happened and will happen has been manifested to us through our thoughts.

Imagine and achieve. The sky truly is the limit.

Intentional Appreciation

December 5, 2008

Happy Friday everyone!

As I’m sure you’ve noticed, appreciation and gratitude are topics that I like discussing. The reason behind this is that acknowledging the great things that we have going on in our lives is essential to our growth as humans.

Gratitude and appreciation are  power tools that help us build a joyful, abundant and optimistic life. This can be done right here and right now. Learning to generate these feelings in real time, no matter how the situation appears, is a key concept in healing and releasing old wounds and perceived problems. When you develop the practical and spiritual tools of being grateful and appreciative for all that comes your way, you’re on the path to a blissful, energy-packed life.

Even if your life is functioning fairly well but lacks a little of the zest and zeal you desire, gratitude and appreciation, generated on purpose and with intention will ignite your soul like nothing else.

We live in a very stressful and fast-paced society. It’s easy to accumulate negative emotions from the little day-to-day interruptions of peace in our lives. Gratitude and appreciation will help us look at those interruptions as gifts.

Learning to use gratitude and appreciation within a practical ritual is what helped me deal with the many hardships I faced  in life. I was able to snatch the pearl out of each and every incident by ritualizing the feeling state of appreciation.

We must learn to turn feeling appreciative and grateful into a habit. It’s about as healthy as a habit can get.

Have a great weekend!

Live Life On Purpose

November 12, 2008

Yesterday I spoke at a long term care facility in Philly. I was interacting with care-givers, nurses and administrators. The main topic of conversation or question we were addressing was, ‘how do you maintain enthusiasm and optimism when dealing with sick people?’ There are inevitable stresses that come when working in such an environment; in spite of that, there are ways to effectively handle them. Anticipation is the key.

One of the points I made was that instead of starting the day with ‘to do lists’, it was more effective to begin them with ‘to feel lists’. It is important to spend some time before work setting the tone for how we are going to feel during the day. Being able to anticipate or launch pre-emptive strikes against upcoming challenges is crucial.

Such preparation allows us to decide and dictate how we are going to feel, it puts us in control. Letting workplace highs and lows determine our emotional state is unhealthy for the mind, body and spirit. We must have dominion over our feelings.

We must make a choice to live life on purpose and not by accident.

We must make a choice to be happy.

The Science of Happiness

November 3, 2008

The Institute of HeartMath research shows that the ‘stress’ hormone, cortisol, is released from the same glands as the ‘feel good’ hormone, DHEA.

We may have been trained to think that it is normal to have negative feelings about the challenges we face in life, but feelings of gratitude and appreciation are a more natural state of being. The well-being of the mind, body and spirit is profoundly enhanced when we are in an optimistic state of mind.

In her book, 5 Gifts for an Abundant Life,  Diane Harmony writes “when we are truly expressing appreciation for someone or something, there is a feeling that radiates from us that has its origins in our heart. The phrase ‘heartfelt thanks’ best describes the energy associated with authentic acts of gratitude which bring even more gifts.”

This is compound appreciation. It creates a very positive energy field all around us and others in our presence.

Start planting the seeds in your positive energy field today!