Posts Tagged ‘compassion’

Priorities

May 4, 2009

I just finished helping a teacher/coach client of mine with an incredibly tough task. I had to help him write a eulogy he will deliver tomorrow for one of his players. A player I knew well. We both cried as we talked about the “why’s” of tragedies such as these. An 18 year old killed in a car while driving after having too much to drink; driving too fast and without a seat belt. These last two days have prompted me to reflect on our educational system’s misplaced priorities.

I lament about the possibilities of this young man if the Life Success program that I conducted in his school had not been cut from the budget; he would have been enrolled in that program. Is it more important that we make sure our students “test” well in science and math so we can keep up with the world while not making it a priority to teach the proper life skills? We live in a fast paced society and young people need to be equipped with the proper decision making skills to keep up with the monumental amount of life altering decisions they make on a daily basis.

Today, I cannot help but think that this young man would be alive today if my progressive program for working with young people had not been cut. However, I will not dwell on it because it would be a waste of time and energy.

I am optimistic that teaching Life Success will be a priority in schools all across the nation in the near future. I intend to be a catalyst for that occurring. As I finish writing this tonight and head out to the wake to say goodbye to this young man I am sad. Tomorrow I will be more determined than ever to initiate change.

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Emotional Stimulus Package

April 27, 2009

Managing your emotional economy is a vital component to living a vibrant life during these tough times. In order to do so, you need to put aside your 401K and mortgage worries, and know that we live in an abundant universe. The key is to believe; optimism is your emotional stimulus package.

Worrying, being afraid and anxious are the attitudes that block abundance and excellence. Managing your emotional economy means that you understand the inherent value that an optimistic outlook has on your life. It means that you are aware that optimism is a powerful state of being to exist in if you want to remain full of energy and vibrancy.

Maintaining a positive perspective at all times is a breeding ground for great things to happen. Negative emotional states are equivalent to having weeds in a garden; they make it difficult to render beautiful fruit, or abundance.

Think about it, we know that negativity breeds negativity. This is why optimism is your emotional stimulus package and unlike the economic one, you don’t need anyone’s approval to pass it: All you need to do is believe.

We have to believe folks. Happy Monday!

An Athlete’s Responsibility

December 17, 2008

While speaking with a group of athletes last week on the responsibility to be a leader,  I was taken aback by how attentive the group was. I think we are entering an era of endless possibilities for molding the integrity of today’s athlete.

I find them so ready and willing to hear about how it is they can become better people while they improve as players. I am currently working on my second book,  Competing with Compassion, and I am encouraged by the fact that its message will be well received by this generation of athletes.

I find that these young men and women want to contribute to others, they want to sacrifice for the team and learn how to lead their teammates. They want to know how to be a better, more centered person as well as a high achieving athlete.

This is great stuff! It gives me a lot to look forward to as a sports fan.

Good News Travels Slowly

December 15, 2008

I was recently doing a coaching session in one of the long term care facilities I work in, and it occurred to me how much people want to be included and appreciated.

In The Miracle of Optimism, I theorized that all humans need to be provided with three basic elements so personal growth can take place. Those elements are 1)giving and receiving appreciation, 2) feeling inclusion in the communities they are a part of and 3) receiving and giving consistency in their interaction.

Especially emotional consistency.

Each and every time I conduct a session it amazes me how much the employees crave those three elements. I am also grateful that I am able to witness them showing each other appreciation. To watch a face light up when a co-worker shares a story of how an action taken by another was appreciated is inspirational. It amazed that so many of the employees had never received positive feedback from their co-workers.

Why can we so readily share/spread gossip and negativity and so rarely share appreciation?

Sports Has Gone Wild!

October 10, 2008

There are many factors that have led us to the place where sports are out of control. In essence, SPORTS HAS GONE WILD! I am not going to point fingers at coaches, parents or players specifically. Each of these groups are contributing to the problems. The condition of sports today is a vicious cycle. There are no points to a circle, so the issues are interlocked. The basic underlying motivation in sports today is ego driven. The ego is in charge, justifying the end at the sacrifice of the means, is behind the actions of the principles involved. There are a few major changes over the past twenty years that contribute to the fact that sports has gone wild. They are parental involvement, the college recruiting craze and the players lack of self-responsibility. In general, there is a lack of civility existing in the year 2008 that is unprecedented.